Hello, wonderful ladies. Today we’re going to focus on ‘Point B.’ We’ve already established a clear understanding of where we’re coming from, our ‘Point A.’ Now, let’s take it a step further and map out where we want our lives to go. This exercise might seem trivial, but trust me, it works. I can share my own story of setting the idea of a house in California with a specific number of square feet and a certain price point. Nine months later, we closed on that exact house, and despite the current mortgage rates, we secured a rate of 2.25%.
This is proof that what you set your mind to can manifest. Miracles do happen when you have faith and focus. But before we dive into how to set up those goals for ‘Point B,’ let’s discuss the common traits of very successful women. My friends who are influencers and business owners, who have built and sold companies for $1 to $10 million before even turning 30, all share certain habits. They wake up early; for example, Michelle Obama is up at 4:30 AM, and Anna Wintour at 5:45 AM to play tennis. This gives them time to condition themselves for the day ahead.
It’s also vital to go to bed early; the best sleep, which normalizes hormone levels, is between 11 PM and 1 AM. This optimal rest changes your perception of reality—you feel happier, lighter. Another key habit is maintaining a positive mindset. There’s no failure, only feedback. This outlook helps to positively frame every situation as an opportunity for growth.
Completing tasks is crucial too. Despite the myth of multitasking, it can actually blur our focus. This is why successful women concentrate on one task at a time, ensuring they’re moving towards their goals with clarity. It’s also important to carve out personal time—whether it’s for a salon visit, a spa day, or just enjoying a coffee alone on your balcony. And listening to your body every day is a must, as is seeking professional help when something feels off.
Discipline is the backbone of success. Controlling your time and actions lets you shape your life. And analyzing and accepting your mistakes is vital—successful women learn from their errors and don’t repeat them.
Now, let’s talk goals. I advise my clients to use the SMART criteria from Harvard, which suggests goals should be Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Time-bound. It’s important for these goals to be realistic. For instance, if you’re living in a rental apartment, aspiring to own a $100 million penthouse may be a stretch. However, the NLP technique of ‘chunking’ helps. If you want that penthouse, start by aiming for an apartment that’s a step up from where you are now, then double it, and so on. This way, your brain doesn’t sabotage the goal, because it seems achievable.
It’s also about creating perfect conditions—like choosing a gym close to your home to maintain motivation. And knowing why you’re pursuing a goal is key because motivation starts with ‘why.’ It has to be a strong, personal reason, not just because it’s what others have. Reward yourself for every achievement, no matter how small, because this conditions your body to positive feelings, which makes achieving future goals easier.
Stack habits to build upon each other, like waking up 10 minutes earlier each week and then adding 10 minutes of reading to that newly found time. Focus on one goal at a time—don’t scatter your efforts across multiple big goals. And when it comes to income, aim to double what you’re making rather than shooting for an unrealistic figure that your nervous system can’t comprehend, as this could lead to self-sabotage.
Stay focused on your goals, measure your progress regularly, and make sure you’re on the right track. These are my tips for reaching ‘Point B.’ We’ll be breaking these down further in the coming days and in your homework, detailing exactly how to make your goals a reality.